As a man who has been part of the pro-feminist men’s movement for most of my adult life, I have addressed so called men’s rights movement people over and over. For the most part, I have found it to be a sad group of misguided men who are scared and hurting, and sometimes very dangerous. They also remind me that no matter how much work I’ve done challenging my own sexism, I must still be vigilant regarding my oppressive tendencies. It reminds me too, to thank the extraordinary women who have continued to teach me as we go on making this feminist revolution that our world so desperately needs.
I need to take a moment here to talk about the Men’s Rights Movement, because there seems to be some confusion. Actually, there seems to be a whole lot of confusion.
Over the past little while, I’ve had a number of people challenge me on calling out men’s rights activists (hereafter referred to as MRAs). “But men are oppressed too,” people say. “Feminism is sexist, and it teaches men that masculinity is wrong.” “Straight, white men aren’t allowed to be proud of themselves anymore.” “If you believe in equality, then you should want men to have the same type of activism as women.” “Everyone is entitled to their opinion.”
First of all, yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But let’s not pretend that all opinions are created equal – some are based on fact, and some are total bullshit. Like, I could tell you that I believe that vaccines…
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Men’s right? Crap in my opinion… We women are in need of laws that can protect us from rapers and violent males… masculinity isn’t wrong, violence is.
I couldn’t agree more, Gillian! It’s clear that most laws are not meant to protect women, but men, who are actually responsible for most crimes. Most rapes, murders, stealing, etc are done by men, not women. Masculinity is misunderstood today: it doesn’t mean you should use violence to prove you are a man, it means you should prove you can be a man without the violence.
I must say, i see lot of man given up their right and hurting so much, they need to realized that they play an important role in a family or in a relationship and they equally have right to voice their opinion in a relationship… most man suppress their own feelings for so long in the end they burst out and doing something crazy! self love, respect and appreciation start within, then you can share all these qualities with your loved ones without any compromise.
I agree with Eugenia, man needs to realize their important role and don’t go mad if something is not going as they scheduled. They need to be man, not child.
Yes i agree but i see some man hide away, ignore how they feel feeling and let some woman walk all over then, that’s not cool… i hate a man who don’t know his role, acting all childish! i am definitely with you on that, woman had taken a lot of abuse from man in the past and still are, but also that does not give us the right to abuse the position we at right now as woman, some woman are very abusive out there, man feel ashamed to ask for help, we need balance, good communication to achieve healthy relationship… we all have feelings and i expect to give and recieve respect!
What are you talking about girls? Man nowadays have to think about everything: money, safety for the family, a good job, being cute, being lovely, being always at the top, and so on… it is clearly normal that some of us are too stressed to handle the situation… and this society or feminist won’t help with the situation..
What are YOU talikng about dude? It is a man job since ancient times to take care of the family and provide benefits for them… don’t deny your role, it is not about the society, it is about man that are notman anymore…
Kate,
What are ancient times? For the last four thousand years the group called men has been dominating and oppressing women and boys and girls in cultures around the world. Humans have lived MOST of history (at least 40,000 years) as gatherer-hunter peoples, with very little role difference or hierarchy. So, what is the most natural, balanced, and healthy way for our species?
I Agree with @troublemakingpunk What the hell are you talking about? You need, as a woman, to take your responsabilities. Everyone needs to do his part.
What are you talking about Dave? woman are juggling things here, why is that? because some man had forgotten who they are! man need to get on with it and take risponsibilitity, take care of their family and stop feeling sorry for themselves… the world is still dominated by man, you just need to play your part and be the man!
Lol @Dave, dude you don’t get the point. Eugenia has explained my point of view perfectly, so… grow up kid!
I agree that men are typecast to only experience certain feelings. BUT through my work, I’ve learned that men who abuse and exert power over women/their partners are typically focusing on and expressing their own feelings quite often, rather than suppressing them. It’s a myth that domestic violence is about someone who’s angry and “explodes” occasionally. Abuse is about controlling your significant other so you can get your way all the time in your relationship. It’s usually men who abuse partners (of any gender) because of the way men have long been socialized in a misogynistic culture. Men who abuse their partners are usually too caught up in their own feelings to consider where their partners are coming from. And this behavior/attitude usually doesn’t extend beyond their partner and/or kids (aka they don’t have anger management problems or are sociopaths).
My question is, what exactly are they fighting for?
Wait, there’s a men’s rights movement? How did I not know about this and were do I sign up for my ridiculous t-shirt?! As a man, I don’t think we need to be focusing on men’s rights as much as we do women’s or even children’s right with the latter coming first. All I hear about is equal this and equal that! Why aren’t we equal yet is what I want to know? It’s 2014, shouldn’t equality be a way of life?
Some people don’t actually believe it but there are more cases where men are kidnapped, raped and violently attacked than actually women.
No men would ever admit he was raped. That’s why people don’t believe that this is a ridiculous movement.
The problem is masculinity. Because when a women gets badly treaten she has no problems in going to a court house or talking about it to her friends who will have pitty on her.
Men feel ashamed about even thinking about it. It’s horrible. We all know it.
This is why people think it doesn’t happen or exist. Trust me, you have no idea on what people are capable of.